Thursday, December 23, 2010

THINGS I JUST CAN'T OR DON'T UNDERSTAND

Why do people say one thing, then turn around and do the opposite?
Why is it when people say I hate it when someone does this or that to me! But then turns around and does the same thing to some one else?

When a person tells me they are sorry and at the time it's seems to be genuinely sincere, about something they did or didn't do that they had said they would or wouldn't do. My telling that person not to worry about it and that it's okay I understand it happens some times. Does that mean I'm okay with being treated that way and having my feeling disregarded, by someone I care about. No and when it happens again and I allow myself to be played for a fool a second time the blame is on me and no one else!

There are to two statements a few people say and use so often that both have lost value and meaning. The first is I love you and the second is I'm sorry or so sorry, now when I hear either of them said repeatedly without any action to backup or show that the words have any real meaning to them. Sorry but repetition does not make a statement true.

It's like when people greet you by saying Hi! how are you? Now yes a few people do want to know how you are. What I've learned is that 90% of them don't really want you to tell them. It's just a greeting most of us say oh I'm fine and how are you! It's a make someone feel good kind of greeting.

What I do understand  is that words have power. Why is it that people continue to take the power out of words by saying them without really meaning them. If it makes you feel better about yourself to say words you don't truly mean, that's okay by me. Just don't be surprised when I stop believing that the words you do say have any real meaning.
Fool me once shame on you! Fool me twice shame on ME!

Most of you that visit my blog know I don't sound off about stuff like this. Yes I know it's Christmas time and I should be saying up lifting stuff. I've got to be me, I'll explain that in my next posting. After over 30 years its time for me to say enough is enough. I'm nice to everyone I met yes even ants and mice. Now I really don't mind them outside but inside my house that is the only exception.  Out they must go alive or dead they will not live with me for long! We all have a line in the sand, this just happens to be mine.

4 comments:

Anonymous said...

Didn't you think this really could have waited until after Christmas?
Looking forward to your explanation of you!
Now the ant and mice I feel the same way.LOL

Mary K. Mennenga said...

Sorry I've been waiting for forty year had to do it when I have the nerve.
About the explanation of me well I havn't writen yet, if you know what I mean!!
I knew someone would like that one!!
Thank's

Calistair said...

I wholeheartedly agree with you, Mary! I especially like the part about when people greet you by saying Hi! how are you? Every once in a while, I get gutsy and will reply with "Since you asked, Horseshit". I will then know by their reaction who really does care and who doesn't.

Mary K. Mennenga said...

Thanks! 99.9% of the time now I just say "I'm fine how are you?" like most people do, it's less painful then knowing the truth sometimes.